Naturally Lefty

I recently had this conversation with my mom friends and 99% of them said they have zero hobbies. I have 100 hobbies or things I enjoy doing alone – so, for me this isn’t an issue, but I realized it is a major issue for most of the women my age.

There’s a quiet shift that happens in your 40s. The kids start becoming more independent, life settles into its routines, and for the first time in years—you might find yourself with space to breathe. But with that space can come an unexpected question: Now what?

If your world has revolved around your children, your career, or daily responsibilities, it’s easy to lose sight of who you are outside of those roles. And when the kids leave for college or start building lives of their own, it can leave you feeling a little… lost.

That’s why finding a passion or hobby now—before the house gets too quiet—is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

Why It Matters

Having a hobby or passion gives you a personal outlet, a way to reconnect with your inner self beyond your title of “mom,” “partner,” or “professional.” It keeps your spirit alive, your creativity flowing, and your confidence strong. It reminds you that you are more than what you do for others—you’re a person with dreams, interests, and talents that still deserve attention.

How to Start Finding Your Passion

• Reflect on what lit you up as a child or teen. Did you love to paint, dance, write, build, bake, craft, read, garden? Go back to those things.

• Try something new without pressure. Take a pottery class, learn to play the guitar, try your hand at photography, or explore local hikes. Curiosity is your guide.

• Give yourself permission to be a beginner. You don’t need to be great at something to enjoy it. Let it be messy, fun, and yours.

• Join a group or class. Finding community around a shared interest can bring new friendships and make it more enjoyable.

• Make time for it regularly. Whether it’s 10 minutes a day or one hour a week, prioritize it like you would a meeting or appointment.

You Deserve This

You’ve spent decades giving, supporting, and showing up for others. Now it’s your turn. Do something for yourself. Having a passion or hobby means that when your kids go off to college, you won’t be left wondering what’s next—you’ll already be growing, learning, and living with purpose.

Because your story isn’t ending—it’s just entering a powerful new chapter.

What are your favorite hobbies? Comment below.